“My husband and I first met in our first year at the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) Lecture theatre in the University of Ibadan back in 2010. We were both in the 09/10 set of the Faculty of Basic Medical Sciences and at that time, we were just friends. Because we took most classes together, we usually burst into each other most times. He was very friendly and he always picked on me, cracking jokes, teasing me about my height and lots more. Most times, I got really angry, not finding the jokes funny at all especially the ones about my height but he wouldn’t stop. He was always looking for my trouble. One day, my friend and classmate Olasupo Funke said: “the way this guy disturbs you ehn it’s like he likes you o; you guys will fit as husband and wife sha.”
Quickly, I rejected it.
By the end of that session we had become very good friends and then in the second semester of our second year in the University, we got into a relationship. Thanks to Mololuwa Adebayo who disturbed me till I agreed. That was how I became his girlfriend. By then, we had become so fond of ourselves that we were always together, except when we had major courses. His classmates usually called me ‘Our wife’; while my classmates called him ‘Gabriel-synthesis’. We carried on the relationship till our final year. Then things got quite dramatic – before our final exams, we broke up. After the finals were over, we came back again with a resolve to make things work but things soon fell apart after final exams. The break time this time was the toughest.
We had issues before going for NYSC and there was lack of effective communication because I served in Bayelsa, while he served in Jos. Things we could have easily settled if we saw face to face were left to be thrashed out through phone calls and at times, issues just got more complicated that way. I wouldn’t like to talk about the circumstances of the breakup, however what eventually brought an end to all the issues were the events of one evening.
That evening I was in the kitchen and I had a phone call from my husband (then boyfriend). He asked: ‘where are you?’ I answered him and then he said: ‘I am outside your lodge’. I didn’t believe it but I grudgingly went outside. To my surprise, there he was standing in front of the Bayelsa State Corper’s lodge in Otuoke, all the way from Jos. In that moment, I saw commitment, love, forgiveness and willingness to take the relationship to the next level, and there was no reason for holding back from claiming what was mine. That was when we both forgave each other and the love was refreshed…….menh! It burst my head. We got back together and that was it.
Eventually, when he asked me to marry him, I didn’t have to think too far about it; I said a YES.
Today we’re married and happily so.”
[END]
