“I met my husband in the Baptist Students Fellowship at Adeyemi College of Education.
I knew him as a fellowship member and that was it. At the time, I was very indifferent so I used to thread my hair with rubber. I didn’t care about boys or anything at the time, I was majorly going about my life – me and my God. He was into politics and so our paths didn’t appear like it would ever cross.
One day like that, he came to my hostel and we ran into each other, then he said: “Ki lo n maa n se eyin sisters yii tem aa n ko rubber sori” (what’s always wrong with you sisters that always thread your hair). I didn’t respond, I was just quiet and I walked away. I don’t know why I did sef because my normal me would have called him out and dished out a befitting response to his remark.
After that interaction, life carried on.
After that encounter, I bumped across him a couple of times on campus and we would just walked past each other with totally disregard. I didn’t care, neither did he. About a year after I left school, I received a call from a strange number – it was him. He called to say hello. I was surprised. I asked him how he got my number and he explained how he did. It was just a simple call, we talked for a few minutes and that was it.
Four to five months later, he called me again. This time, he said that he was coming to Ife for a program and asked if he could see. I said no problem, sheybi it is just to meet up with an old acquaintance. It was on this visit that he asked me out. I was in year two at the time in Obafemi Awolowo University.
Unlike what some would do, I accepted the proposal instantly. I didn’t drag my feet or try to form hard to get. I have a philosophy: why waste time when you know what you want? Somehow, I had sensed that he was going to propose to me. I didn’t know when or how he would do it but I always knew he would. So when he did, I said a yes immediately.
Unknowingly, all along, we had the same mentor. You could call it a divine arrangement. Really everything about how things unfolded between us was divine. Interestingly too, our mentor knew what was going down and he did not inform or influence anything. He was silent throughout the process and till my husband proposed and we became engaged.
Our relationship lasted for seven years and finally we got married in 2016.”
(Ibadan, 2017)
